Where Was Daddy When You Needed Him?

The absence of fathers is an epidemic plaguing our society, affecting families from every corner of our world and from all walks of life. Whether our fathers left us entirely during our childhood or were physically present but emotionally distant, those who missed out on an affirming, intimate father-love continue to experience the devastating consequences of that loss.

Are you angry at the world and don’t know why?

Do you inadvertently sabotage relationships or smother those closest to you?

Do you rarely take risks or step out on faith?

Is there an undercurrent of anxiety in most tasks you perform?

Do you struggle to connect with God?

Do you have little or no self-confidence–or minimal self-worth?

For women who answer yes to these questions, the common denominator is often an absent father. Far too many daughters have been stripped of a healthy relationship with their earthly dad. But real healing is within your reach.

Discover how the absence of your father has impacted your entire life–your attitude, your actions, your beliefs, your decisions, and your identity–and learn how you can stop resulting negative behaviors, beak free, and experience a confidence-building, empowering love that will heal your hurts and fulfill your deepest longings.

Monique has done a fine job of addressing this very special relationship between a woman and her father ...

– Michelle McKinney Hammond,
author of “In Search of
the Proverbs 31 Man”

Monique has unlocked the door that leads us to understanding, healing, forgiveness, and in some cases, restoration.

– Terri McFaddin,
author of “Only a Woman”

Foreword by Kenneth C. Ulmer, D.Min., Ph.D

Chapter 1 - Message from a Fatherless Daughter
This chapter introduces the issue of absentee fathers as a societal issue and relates it to biblical scripture. The author gives a personal narrative of her struggles as a fatherless daughter.

Chapter 2 - The Father's Day
This chapter is an introduction to our heavenly Father and His role in our lives as we revisit the stage of life when our earthly father took flight; the impact of his absence; and, despite his absence, a daughter's responsibility to honor him.

Chapter 3 - Why Fathers Leave
This chapter highlights the spiritual reasons why earthly fathers leave their daughters and the corroboration from biblical and modern day accounts. It assures the reader that their heavenly Father won't leave them.

Chapter 4 - Why Daughters Leave
This chapter focuses on basically good dads who have made a mistake resulting in their daughters pushing them away. The goal is to usher the reader toward forgiveness by understanding our fallible, earthly father as contrasted with our infallible, heavenly Father.

Chapter 5 - Daddy's Love
This chapter gives an understanding of our heavenly Father's purifying love that makes daughters whole. The reader will learn the difference between true love and distorted love.

Chapter 6 - A Shoulder to Cry On
This chapter gives the reader permission to grieve over the loss of her earthly father. It explains the grief cycle and validates each phase through scripture, giving the reader freedom to cry on the shoulder of her heavenly Father.

Chapter 7 – A Father-Daughter Talk
One of the ways to draw closer to our heavenly Father is by talking and listening to Him. This chapter excites and encourages the reader to carve out time to talk to Him daily through prayer.

Chapter 8 - Daddy's at Work
This chapter explains our heavenly Father's desire to rebuild and restructure the lives of the fatherless, whose lives have possibly been emotionally, physically, psychologically, and mentally torn down.

Chapter 9 - Daddy's Gifts
This chapter focuses on the overlooked gifts given to fatherless daughters from our heavenly Father: surrogate fathers, weekend dads, spiritual fathers, granddads, and stepfathers.

Chapter 10 - Clean Up Your Room
This chapter speaks about the responsibility of daughters to clean up their lives. Fatherless daughters must not use the absence of their father as a license to live sinful lives.

Chapter 11 - Spankings
This chapter looks at the heavenly Father's love through His disciplining nature. Daughters will discover that an absent father does not preclude them from the consequences of disobedience. Confession of sin is outlined and encouraged.

Chapter 12 - A Man Like Dad
This chapter examines our relationships with men and gives a detailed, biblical description of the characteristics of a godly man. Fatherless daughters must use wisdom and discernment, seeking their heavenly Father's advice on dating and marriage.

Chapter 13 - Daddy's Girl
One of the greatest challenges fatherless daughters face is their identity. Most struggle with low self-worth and lack of self-confidence. This chapter helps daughters understand, accept, and appreciate their new identity in Christ.

Chapter 14 - Walking Hand-In-Hand
Fatherless daughters are encouraged to discard their old ways of walking—in darkness and pain. Learning to walk in the light and in their healing with our heavenly Father will be both challenging and rewarding.

Chapter 15 - Story Time
Fatherless daughters will become familiar with their heavenly Father by constantly reading His word. This chapter will create a hunger and thirst for the Word of God while it validates the fatherless through scripture.

Chapter 16 - Daddy, Pick Me Up
This chapter will show fatherless daughters how Christ takes us by the hand and picks us up so that we may rise and become victorious women of God. Daughters will receive hope through three fatherless victors -- Moses, Elijah, and Jesus.